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Crystals for Love


crystals for love- holding heart

There are many crystals for love, these are my top 6, chosen to create a balance of healing and boosts to attract love whatever your situation.

When we talk about love we automatically think about romantic relationships, however this is not the only sort by a long way. Self-love is the foundation of all other love. Self-love brings self-respect, self-confidence and many other important qualities. Therefore, without these, it becomes very difficult to receive love from others. When we do not value ourselves poor choices are made. Deep down do not believe we deserve to feel love from others.

Love can also be experienced between friends, family, animals and life itself.  The feeling of real love is one of the highest vibrations of emotions you can experience.  In accordance with the Law of Attraction the more love you send out the more you will receive creating a positive and creative space to live from.


Benefits of Self-Love

You will:

  • Have more energy.
  • Be able to truly love another.
  • Have more support.
  • Experience more health and vitality.
  • Have more confidence.
  • Have healthier relationships.
  • Be able to take more risks and have bigger rewards.
  • Have more clarity and insight.
  • Be free to enjoy more of this life.
  • Have more compassion for yourself and others.

How Crystals Can Help

Whether it is a new relationship you are looking for, to heal a current one, to improve your friendships or to boost your self-love there are crystals that can assist and support you.  To find and experience love in it’s highest forms you must be ready to receive it into your life.  Crystals can help you to remove limiting beliefs and heal your heart whilst promoting your positive aspects.  This not only helps you to attract love but also to be able to hold onto it once found.


Crystals for Love

Raw rose quartzRose Quartz

Known as the “Stone of Unconditional Love”.  Rose quartz opens the heart chakra to love in all it’s forms. This crystal has the power to bring love into life and daily situations, lowering stress and anxiety.  It is a very soothing stone and is a great base to begin all healing from.




This crystal aids in transformation of the heart.  Malachite works quickly and diligently to clear away painful heartache and make way for new love.  It reminds you to keep a positive and optimistic outlook on life whilst opening your heart to all types of love.



Lapis lazuliLapis lazuli

As a stone of communication this crystal brings honesty, compassion and harmony to a relationship.  Lapis lazuli can enhance and strengthening your relationships by helping to heal broken or injured bonds whilst encouraging truth and self-awareness. It supports being more comfortable and honest with your feelings, and enhances loving communication.  Lapis lazuli can help encourage confident and clear communication and active listening to prevent misunderstandings in your relationship.  In addiction to this lapis lazuli stimulates empathy which is vital in maintaining and strengthening all meaningful relationships.


Green AventurineGreen Aventurine

Known as the “Stone of Love and Luck” this crystal is great for boosting your chances of success, carrying this stone with you will increase your confidence and your luck at attracting new love into your life.  Also known as the “Stone of Abundance”,  green aventurine attracts wealth and success in every part of your life, including romance and love. This crystal also activates the heart chakra.




Known as the “Stone of Forgiveness” it assists with letting go of any pain from a past relationship with an attitude of love and forgiveness as it gently cleanses you of hurt, anger, regret, resentment and bitterness.  It is one of the best stones for healing the heart and emotional trauma allowing new love to enter your life.


Raw citrineCitrine

Known as the “Stone of Success” citrine attracts love whist protecting against those who would break your heart. This crystal promotes self-esteem, self-confidence and increases your feeling of self-worth. Once you learn to love and truly appreciate yourself, you’ll be able to open yourself up to receive love.




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All About Lapis Lazuli

All About Lapis Lazuli


Lapis lazuli, often know as lapis for short is admired for its intense, rich blue colour. This stone contains small particles of pyrite, consequently golden sparkles can often be seen.

Historians believe that for more than 6500 years lapis luzuli has been used by humans.   In many ancient civilisations it was very much a treasured gemstone.  For example, funeral mask of Tutankhamun contain lapis lazuli.  Further more, Cleopatra’s used powdered lapis lazuli for her famous blue eyeshadow.  These civilisations prized it as much as other gemstones such as sapphires.

Lapis lazuli has been cut into beads, cabochons, inlays and tablets in order to show off its rich, dark colour.  In addition to jewellery, this stone was also a popular material for carving; creating objects such as game boards, bowls, dagger handles, hair combs, and amulets.

Lapis was the most expensive pigment available during the Middle Ages and Renaissance. It was often reserved for depicting the robes of Angels or the Virgin Mary.

Today, this crystal is available in many forms such as jewellery and decorative ornaments.  We love this gorgeous blue crystal at Rafaelle, it’s often one of the first ones we use when creating new designs.

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Countries of origin: Chile, Italy, USA, Middle East, Russia, Afghanistan

Chemical composition: Sodium calcium aluminosilicate

Hardness on Mohs scale: 5-6

Rarity: Common

Zodiac Birthstone: Sagittarius, Libra

Month Birthstone: September

Chakra: Throat, third eye, crown

Planet: Venus

Lapis lazuli in various forms:

lapis lazuli in various forms


Physical, Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Healing Properties:

Selection of Lapis Lazuli Jewellery by Rafaelle:

At Rafaelle we create all our jewellery using natural, grade A crystals combined with sterling silver.  The designs are intentionally simple to enable able the natural beauty of the crystals to be the centre piece of each design.

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All About Carnelian


The name carnelian comes from the latin word for flesh due to its deep orangy red colour.  This crystal was used by the Egyptians to protect souls on their way to the afterlife.  Jewellery has been created from carnelian for thousands of years and it was often used as a amulet for protection. Napoleon found an octagonal, inscribed carnelian seal on the battlefield in Egypt.  He wore this ring at all times before leaving it to his nephew.

These days this popular semi-precious stone is available to purchase in various forms, whether you are looking for a big geode, tiny minimalist stud earrings or anything in between there is something to suit your lifestyle.  Having carnelian in you life is incredibly beneficial, read on to find out how it could benefit you.

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Countries of origin: Brazil, Russia, India, Australia, Madagascar, South Africa, Uraguay, USA, UK, Czech Republic, Slovakia, Peru, Iceland, Romania

Chemical composition: Silicon dioxide

Hardness on Mohs scale: 7

Rarity: Common

Zodiac Birthstone: Cancer, Leo

Chakra: Root, sacral

Planet: Sun

Carnelian in various forms:

Carnelian in various forms


Physical, Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Healing Properties:

Carnelian physical healing properties

Carnelian emotional and mentalhealing properties

Selection of Carnelian Jewellery by Rafaelle:

All of our jewellery is created using natural, undyed grade A crystals combined with sterling silver.  The designs are intentionally simple to enable able the natural beauty of the crystals to be the centre piece of each design.


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All About Amethyst

All about amethyst


Amethyst is an extremely popular purple crystal.  Traditionally it was worn to prevent drunkenness, in fact the name amethyst is derived from the Greek phrase “to be intoxicated”.  It has far more healing properties to offer, read on to discover more.  This is one of the first few crystals we started working with here at Rafaelle, it’s natural beauty is greatly complimented by our simple designs and use of sterling silver.  We hope you enjoy this post as much as we enjoyed creating it.

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Countries of origin: USA, UK, Canada, Brazil, Mexico, Russia, Sri Lanka, Uruguay, East Africa, Siberia, India

Chemical composition: Silicon dioxide

Hardness on Mohs scale: 7

Rarity: Very common

Zodiac Birthstone: Pisces, Aquarius, Virgo and Capricorn

Month Birthstone: February

Chakra: Third eye, soma, crown, higher crown

Planet: Jupiter, Neptune

Amethyst in tumbled, bead and natural form:


Amethyst Healing Properties:

Selection of Amethyst Jewellery by Rafaelle:

All of our jewellery is created using natural, undyed grade A crystals combined with sterling silver.  The designs are intentionally simple to enable able the natural beauty of the crystals to be the centre piece of each design.

A selection of amethyst bracelets, earrings, necklaces.


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Crystals for Addiction Recovery

crystals for addiction

What is Addiction?

Sign saying addiction being held up.When looking at crystals for addiction recovery we must first identify exactly what addiction is.  When the word addiction is used it is often associated with illegal drugs or being an alcoholic.  However, there are so many addictions it would be near impossible to cover them all here.  The official definition according to Oxford dictionaries is:

“the fact or condition of being addicted to a particular substance, thing, or activity”

On the surface some addictions may not seem to be an issue such as an addiction to exercise.  The issue becomes clear when you see how it negatively affects other aspects of their life.  Addiction puts focus so heavily on one area of your life the other areas are then neglected.  On top of this many addictions are also extremely harmful to health.

Most addiction stems from an attempt to escape from experiencing an aspect of reality the person if finding painful; physically, emotionally or both.  Even if the original pain that was being escaped from no longer exists, physical reliance can then make it increasingly difficult to recover from the addiction.


From the World Health Organisation website:

  • The harmful use of alcohol results in 3.3 million deaths each year.
  • On average every person in the world aged 15 years or older drinks 6.2 litres of pure alcohol per year.
  • Less than half the population (38.3%) actually drinks alcohol, this means that those who do drink consume on average 17 litres of pure alcohol annually.
  • Some 31 million persons have drug use disorders.
  • Almost 11 million people inject drugs, of which 1.3 million are living with HIV, 5.5 million with hepatitis C, and 1 million with both HIV and hepatitis C.

How Crystals for Addiction Can Help Recovery

Healing crystals can be used to assist with the various aspects of recovering from an addiction.  They will not do it for you, you will need to put in the work but they will ease the symptoms, boost willpower and encourage you to start a fresh life.  They can also help with healing both the original causes which lead to the addiction and the damage done.


Raw amethyst a crystal for addictionRecovery from any addiction requires an enormous amount of willpower.  Amethyst increases willpower to overcome the addiction. Amethyst also helps with withdrawal symptoms.


Raw citrineAddiction completely takes over your life.  It becomes your main thought and everything in your life becomes about the thing you are addicted to.  To overcome addiction, you must reinvent yourself to a certain extent, become a new healthier, more balanced person.  Citrine is capable of resurrecting the wearer with a new set of ambitions, goals, likes and dislikes, citrine enables an addict to turn over a new leaf.

Smoky Quartz

Raw smoky quartzOvercoming an addiction can appear to be a massive obstacle, smoky quartz balances the lower chakras assisting with overcoming obstacles whilst also being a soothing and mood lifting crystal.  It also heals removing toxins from the body.


Bowl of tumbled malachiteCravings for the item you are addicted to makes overcoming addiction much more difficult.  They can easily lead you to become obsessed by it and then it becomes much harder to resist.  Malachite removes unnatural cravings to any kind of substance from food to drugs.


Bowl of tumbled hematiteOne of reasons addiction is so hard to overcome is the withdrawal symptoms.  Mental, emotional and physical symptoms can be extreme and knowing that all you need to do to stop them is to return to the addictive substance can easily create a seemingly impossible cycle to get out of.  Hematite is great for withdrawal symptoms, easing them meaning staying away from the substance you are addicted to that bit easier.

Tiger’s Eye

Bowl of tumbled tiger's eyeBoosts your passion so reducing boredom (as addiction feeds on your boredom). It also presents new opportunities to release your past life and move forwards with a refreshed positive energy.






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Healing Crystals for Weight Loss

How do Crystals Help You Lose Weight?

 Healing crystals for weight loss helping you to make better choices.Can you use healing crystals for weight loss?  Losing weight is tough.  All sorts of diets are tried, sadly some of them can be very harmful to health.  There are many different weight loss supplements, weight loss pills and other products out there.  They all promise to help you lose lots of weight.  However, what few of these tell you, is that it’s really all down to you.  Whatever diet you are on only works if you stick to it (sounds obvious I know, but easy, definitely not).  Pills and supplements and even exercise really will not help you if you use them as an excuse to eat excessively.  What you really need is something to help you get your head in the right place, to help you stay in a positive mindset.  This way you loss weight in a healthy way therefore maintaining this new, healthy you, long term.

This is where crystals comes into their own.  Crystals will work to help you keep to your diet and exercise plan, encouraging you to make good choices and also to aid with creating new, healthier habits.  At Rafaelle Designs we strongly believe in losing weight to become healthy in a healthy way.  This can take much more time and effort than some of the quick fixes out there.  However, isn’t it worth this extra time and effort if ultimately any excess weight both comes off and stays off?


Raw apatite stone.Being hungry whilst trying to lose weight is horrible.  Its like you are fighting your own bodies needs in order to get healthy which is completely counter intuitive.  Apatite works as an appetite suppressant, helping you to stick to your healthy eating plan.

Rose Quartz

Rose quartz, a crystal for weight loss.This crystal increases self-esteem and encourages self-love.  Almost everybody who needs to lose weight will find it very difficult and it is easy to become frustrated with yourself and start believing negative things about yourself such as you can’t do it or don’t deserve to be healthy.  These negative thoughts are totally wrong and can easily end up sabotaging your weight loss attempts and can even lead to you gaining more weight as a result.  Rose quartz helps you to learn to love and respect yourself and understand you can so this.

Red Tiger’s Eye

Tumbled red tiger's eye crystal.Red tiger’s eye motivates and energises, also speeds up metabolism.  The journey to healthy, long term weight loss is a long one.  This crystal will motivate you to keep going at whatever stage you are at.  It also speeds up your metabolism giving your efforts an additional boost.

Clear Quartz

Clear quartz, a crystal for weight loss.Clear quartz is known as “The Master Healer” for very good reason.  As weight is lost this crystal will heal you both physically and emotionally.  It also boosts the power of the other crystals it is used with.


Sunstone, a crystal for weight loss.Sunstone is another crystal that improves metabolism, again boosting your efforts.  It is also a very positive stone.  It promotes a positive mindset, with a positive mindset everything appears far more achievable helping you to stay on track.


Amethyst, a crystal for weight loss.Being overweight is almost always caused by emotional issues.  Eating becomes a comfort, but there is then guilt attached.  This then leads to negative thoughts and then to overeating creating a negative cycle.  Being overweight means your body is not working at it best, so having the energy to sort this out can appear impossible.  Eating is also used as a celebration during special occasions meaning there is a reason to overeat for every circumstance.  Overeating and eating poorly can quickly become a habit, with the same cravings and difficultly to recover from as any addiction.  Amethyst is great for addiction recovery.  It breaks old eating habits leaving space to build new healthy ones.




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Crystals for Anxiety


Women with head in hands.

Healing crystals can be used to assist with pretty much anything you can think of.  In this post I will be writing about using crystals for anxiety. Anxiety is a terrible condition that effects a very large amount of people.  Part of what makes it so hard to live with is that it is invisible to most other people.  Many have very little or no understanding of this condition.  It can literally prevent you from doing things most people take for granted.


Anxiety Statistics

From the Anxiety and Depression Association of America:

  • Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older, or 18.1% of the population every year.
  • Anxiety disorders are highly treatable, yet only 36.9% of those suffering receive treatment.
  • People with an anxiety disorder are three to five times more likely to go to the doctor and six times more likely to be hospitalized for psychiatric disorders than those who do not suffer from anxiety disorders.
  • Anxiety disorders develop from a complex set of risk factors, including genetics, brain chemistry, personality, and life events.

Anxiety Symptoms

Anxiety symptoms

According to the Healthline website common symptoms of anxiety are:

  • Nervousness, restlessness, or being tense
  • Feelings of danger, panic, or dread
  • Rapid heart rate
  • Rapid breathing, or hyperventilation
  • Increased or heavy sweating
  • Trembling or muscle twitching
  • Weakness and lethargy
  • Difficulty focusing or thinking clearly about anything other than the thing you’re worried about
  • Insomnia
  • Digestive or gastrointestinal problems, such as gas, constipation, or diarrhoea
  • A strong desire to avoid the things that trigger your anxiety
  • Obsessions about certain ideas, a sign of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)
  • Performing certain behaviours over and over again
  • Anxiety surrounding a particular life event or experience that has occurred in the past, especially indicative of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)

How Crystals Can Help

Tumbled crystals in heart shape

The good news is there are ways to overcome anxiety.  It’s not easy and takes a lot of work but is possible.  Certain healing crystals can relieve the symptoms.  They will help you to see the reality of the situation from a more rational place.  This allows you to take control of the situation and feel much calmer.  Healing crystals work best with ongoing work to resolve the underlying issues causing the anxiety.  It is also great for breaking the negative cycle of becoming anxious over the thought of your anxiety kicking in.

The incredible thing about healing crystals is they can be used alongside any other medication and/or treatment.  There is also the bonus of no unwanted side effects.

Crystals for Anxiety

Raw lepidoliteLepidolite – This is a stone of transition.  It assists with releasing behavioural patterns to gently allow new ones to come in.  It is a very soothing crystal bringing balance and calm.




Raw black tourmalineBlack Tourmaline – As anxiety is your fight flight mechanism being activated, fear is central to your symptoms.  Black tourmaline dissolves fear and worry when feeling overwhelmed.  This crystal is also great for digestive problems which can be another symptom of anxiety.




Raw amethyst a crystals for anxietyAmethyst – Reduces the pain and tension which often comes with anxiety.




Close up of sodaliteSodalite – Often anxiety encourages you to only see the worst possible scenarios in situations.  It is also common to experience feelings of dread and panic.  Sodalite clears these negative feelings.  Sodalite also works with the throat chakra helping you to express yourself in difficult situations more clearly.




Raw citrineCitrine – When you are living in fear and all you can see is negative situations you begin to doubt yourself and your ability to get through this very quickly.  Citrine helps you to overcome anxiety by strengthening self-belief.  It is also the stone of abundance assisting you to manifest yourself a healthier you.




Raw rose quartzRose Quartz – This is a stone of love; soothing and calming.  Self-love and learning to be compassionate towards yourself is key to overcoming anxiety.




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Living Your Dream in 7 Steps

Follow your dreams


Wouldn’t you love to know how to start living your dream life?  I’d like to start by saying that in no way do I have this completely sussed.  However, in the last year I have secured a permanent job which both supports me financially and leaves me enough time to pursue my dream.  I am also now a registered childminder which is my backup incase I lose my employed job for any reason, have started one new business and am about to opening my second. A year ago my life was very different and I had pretty much hit rock bottom, emotionally, mentally and financially. So, as I say, I am no expert, but I can do it I’m sure you can too.

Update:  My own businesses are now able to support me so I have now been able to quit my employed position to fully focus on growing my own them.  This was always my intention as it means the time I work is much more flexible, it now does not matter when I work as long as I get the hours in somewhere.  It also now gives me the flexibility to live anywhere without disrupting my income which was a necessity for my dream life.

Step 1- Improve your mindset

The most important thing that you can do in the beginning is to realise that it is possible to be living your dream if you are prepared to put aside every excuse you can think of, all the reasons you can’t and fully focus all your energy into making it happen despite your current circumstances.   For a high majority of people there is never a “right time” and it will be not easy, no one will hand it to you on a plate. I truly believe any goal is possible, just that the bigger the goal the more energy, determination and commitment it will require to achieve.


This is the step most people stop trying at. They will tell themselves a multitude of things that make them believe their dream is impossible. Statements such as (not an extensive list):

* I don’t have the time.

* I do not have enough money.

* If only I was younger/healthier.

* I do not have the skills I need.

* If only I lived nearer to (a person, place etc) that would make this possible.

Does sounds like you? If it does, no problem, this post should help you realise that living your dream really is possible. All you have to do (and this sounds far more simple than it is) is to either say yet at the end of any statement that starts “I do not”. Nothing in life is constant; we are in a state of constant change. Any statement that starts “If only” leads to two questions, why can’t I and why do I need to be. There are always alternative solutions, finding them and putting them into place is the way to move forwards.

Step 2- Know what living your dream really looks like

Visualise your dream, know it, feel it, live with it. This way you will truly understand your dream, knowing exactly what it is you wish to achieve.

Without this step it’s like you have a title but no content. What living your dream will be is unique to you. You need to really understand your dream for yourself, it’s you that needs to create it so you need to know what to create, down to every tiny detail.

The great thing about this step is once you believe it and can see it (at least in your mind) you can start to feel excited and inspired. This is the place I come back to each and every time I feel like it’s all too much and have no idea how to move forwards. It’s the single most motivating thing you can do.

Be brave, tell others your dream. Obviously be careful not to say so much that someone else steals your ideas, but enough so that you have said it out load. This helps to concrete the idea.  Not everyone will be completely positive and not all will support you, however many will and you are not asking for their permission (or even their support) you are only sharing your thoughts.

Step 3- Get organised

Get organised to start living your dreamNow you believe you can be living your dream and you have a vision of how it will look, it’s time to put all that down on paper.

Create two sheets.   First one is your vision. In any form you wish whether a list, spider diagram, pictures and photos or a combination.  I recommend making it pleasing to look at but other than that in the form you want to, again it’s your vision, you need to work with it no one else. The second is a list of issues to overcome to enable you to live your dream. This makes you break each obstacle down into more manageable chunks.

Step 4 – Research what is needed to start living your dream


Research what is needed to start living your dream.Now is time to research. With the internet these days it’s possible to find out pretty much all you need to know. Go through all the things you think you need. If you know you need to find money then find out how much you actually do need, don’t assume. If you need certain skills find out how you could acquire them.

Please remember though that everyone ‘s experience is different.  When looking on the internet to find figures try to get a general idea from a few different places.  Your situation will not be the same as their’s so don’t assume their costs will be the same as yours.

Some things you will be able to do yourself, others you may need to pay someone to do for you.  Remember you also have skills that although may not be relevant to your own current needs may be used in exchange for a skill you need.  For example you may be great at taking photos and you find someone who needs a photo shoot and knows how to set up a website which you need.  Arrange to do a photo shoot for them in exchange for them setting up your website.  It sounds too good to be true but it does happen.  As long as both parties gain from the exchange, everyone wins and no money needs to exchange hands.  Living your dream could help someone else live their dream too.

Step 5 – Make a plan

Make a living your dream planNow you have a list of obstacles and you have researched how big they are you can start to tackle them. Tackle just one at a time- break it down into smaller parts if needed. It’s always better to achieve 1 tiny goal than to achieve nothing as it was all way too overwhelming.

Most people will have the obstacle of money so I will start by addressing this. In the last step I wrote about research and finding out exactly how much is needed. Costs should also be itemised so you can look at how much you need for what. So, for example you need £1000 to get started and £40 of this is for an online course. Finding £40 for something is a lot less intimidating than finding £1000 isn’t it? Added benefit in this is that you also remove the obstacle of not having one of the skills needed. So how do you find £40?

This I understand may well be still a lot of money to you.   However, this could be £10 a month saved over 4 months or sell something you no longer need. Most people can find some bits if they look through drawers and cupboards. Is there a non-essential you can cut down on or give up? Look at your current monthly spend, are there any savings to be made there? Are you paying too much for utilities or a membership you have forgotten to cancel but never use?

Lack of time is another thing that a lot of people allow to stop them.   Time can be treated much like money, break all the tasks down into bitesize pieces. A little extra time can be found in anyone’s lifestyle, get up 10 min earlier, skip watching a TV program, spend 10 min less doing your hobby each day. Get organised- do you waste time? Again just a few mins a day soon adds up, 10 min over 6 days is a hour.  This is an hour more you spent on you dream before you found that extra 10 min. In 1 month that’s an extra 5 hours you have created.

Now yes I am suggesting you change things in your life, you give things up and you make sacrifices, but only if you want to live your dream. It’s totally up to you, no one other than you can make this work. Remember with each penny you put aside, each minute you find and each obstacle you learn how to overcome you make another positive step in the direction of your dream.

Apply this to your” if only” type statements and you will see what needs to happen. So for example “If only I was younger” you cannot make yourself younger, but why is your age stopping you? If it’s because you wish to enter a completion for under 18yr olds and you are 30 then sorry you have just realised your dream is not humanly possible.  It needs to be moderated to accommodate this- can you find a competition for your age group? Maybe you are not the only one, you could look into starting your own.   If it’s because you think that your dream will just be harder due to your age as most are younger then counter that argument in your head with what you have that’s better than the younger age group, experience? Maybe you are more level headed?

So basically the questions you need to answer for each “if only” are: Can I change it? Do I need to change It? What are the alternative solutions?

Step 6 – Get to work on living your dream

Take action to start living your dream.This is where the real hard work starts, hopefully by now you really believe living your dream is possible.  You have now taken the first steps to making it a reality.

You now have a clear list of manageable tasks to take on. At times completing one task will automatically lead onto making another easier to achieve.  There will also be times where additional obstacles will present themselves. When this does happen- and it will, that these obstacles were there all along it’s just that you didn’t see them.  Your dream is not any further away than it was before this latest obstacle showed itself.

Personally I try to look at each obstacle as a learning opportunity. Each and every time you overcome an obstacle you gain some knowledge that you will be able to use at some time in the future. It will also boost your confidence in your ability to combat further obstacles down the line.

A great example of this is when I was setting up Rafaelle, before it went live. I had absolutely no previous experience in building a website.  However, I had to teach myself as I did not have the money to pay anyone else to build it.   One day I was working on it (I had spent many, many hours working on it up to this point) and it “broke”.   I could no longer access my product pages or a couple of other pages and showed error messages that made absolutely no sense to me.

My first reaction was to panic- I was close to tears and had zero idea what to do. I was scared that if I tried to fix it I would break it further and I thought I had lost weeks of work and even if I started again what would stop this from happening again?

I stopped, took a deep breath and went over in my head what I had done in the previous 15 min before I noticed I could get into certain sections. Suddenly I realised I had updated a lot of my plugins en-masse. But now what? What do I do if this is the cause of the problem?  Even though I now had a good idea what the cause of this issue is I still have no idea how or even if it can be fixed. Again, took another deep breath and went through every YouTube video and article I could find online about this- mostly only understanding about 50% of what was said in any of them at best.

So decided to take a bit of a leap of faith.  I deactivated each of the plugins one at a time then test if the issue was fixed.  I had no guarantee that this would not further break my site,  but  did not having a better option. After what felt like forever, but in reality was probably a few minutes, I found the offending plugin.  I decided I could live without it and deleted it permanently, reactivated the rest and my site was fixed!!

From this I have now learnt to update plugins one at a time.  If there was a repeat I now know how to quickly and easily fix it. I am grateful for this all happening before the Rafaelle became live.  I am also grateful to have learnt how to deal with this issue if it occurs in the future.  It also gave me a big boost in confidence in my ability to deal with issues on my website.

Step 7 –Don’t Stop

Keep going if you want to be living your dream.All that is required now is for you to keep going, putting one foot in front of the other.  Whenever you feel like giving up take a look at your vision sheet you created in step 3. Sometimes it’s hard to stay motivated.  It can be easy to think you haven’t moved forwards when you take tiny steps.  Keeping a progress diary can really help with this.  The diary encourages you to record what you have achieved each day, you can look back and see how far you have come.

Sounds simple doesn’t it- it’s not, it will take time, perseverance, strong will, tears, tantrums and a mega amount of determination- you just need to decide whether or not your dream is worth it. It can be a lonely experience at times.  You will have many ups and downs, however the ups are massive and totally wipe the all the negatives into oblivion!!

There will be days when it appears that everything you have worked for has come crashing down around you.  You will feel that your dream is no longer possible.  When this happens, take a breathe, realise everything happens for a reason and move forwards within the new circumstances you find yourself in.  The path to living your dream is never straight.  As you keep going and are open to the lessons being offered there is so much to be learnt.


Living your dream takes a lot of work but is worth it.In all of this I haven’t said what my dream is. It’s to start a spiritual centre where people can come to for healing and to learn about and experience the many different forms of mediumship. For mediums to have the opportunity to both demonstrate and develop there. A holistic shop and reference library for the public to access. A place experts in consciousness and afterlife studies can share their knowledge and findings with interested parties and a scheme in place to assist with the funding of further research.

I have a long way to go before my dream is realised, but I know it will be. My obstacles are varied and at times extremely challenging, I am pretty much never in my comfort zone anymore and am constantly thinking about 10 steps ahead. I live my dream (and actually dream it too quite a bit)!! I do have times when I want a “normal” life and if I gave up on my dream my life would actually be quite easy these days, but where would be the fun in that!!

One of my first steps was to create myself an income.  This would need to support me and if possible enable me to make connections with similar minded people. My solution was to start an online business selling healing crystals.  So in August 2018 Rafaelle was opened, please check it out and let me know what you think.

I would wish you luck, but sadly luck will only get you so far. Instead I send you all a boost of passion, inspiration and self-belief, these will get you through the toughest times.

I hope this post has inspired you to take those first few steps towards living your dream, whatever that may be. Please share how you are getting on in the comments section; I would love to hear from you.

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Cleansing and Charging Crystals for Optimum Performance

Cleansing and Charging Crystals


When I first sat down to write this I knew exactly what I wanted to do; I wished to create a very simple guide to cleansing and charging crystals. My aim was to make it so that even an absolute beginner could follow without confusion. Rafaelle is all about making the healing properties of crystals accessible to all. With that thought in mind, here I go.

Reasons For Cleansing and Charging Crystals

Firstly we are talking about an energetic cleanse rather than a physical one.

A crystal it is far from being new even if you have just bought or received it. The crystal has travelled a long way, through the hands of many different people and been stored in many different locations. Crystals absorb the energy from their surroundings and from people, cleansing removes these and brings the crystal back to an energetic clean slate.

Crystals should then be cleansed on a regular basis, how often is down to how they are used.  The negative energies of pain whilst being used for healing and/or the patient not being in a great state of mind will be collected by the crystal therefore it will require cleansing. If you find a crystal seems less effective than normal this is a sign that the crystal needs to be cleansed.

Over time crystals will weaken and lose their energy.  When they were in the ground they were able to charge themselves using the earth’s energies, once mined they lose this ability.  Once cleansed, crystals should be charged to return them to their natural energetic state.

Cleansing Methods

The first method normally recommended is to cleanse using water, I’m going to start here by being slightly controversial and say that I highly suggest you avoid this method unless you really know what you are doing. The reason being is that although one of the simplest, most accessible methods many crystals available these days can be damaged by water. Some crystals can have their surfaces ruined, some much worse, they can be dissolved. Unless you know for definite that the crystal you wish to cleanse is ok in water then it’s really not worth the risk, especially when there are other methods available that work just as well. Also if you have several different crystals then it makes much more sense to use the same method to cleanse all your crystals.

There are also a couple of other common methods I have left out due to the issues with some crystals and water. The burying method, normally soil contains water and brown rice can leave a residue which needs to be washed off.

When deciding on which of the following methods I would recommend using the method you are most drawn to.


Smudging to cleanse crystals

Smudging is the act of burning certain plants/herbs to create a cleansing smoke, it is a Native American custom. It purifies and drives away negative energies so is great to cleanse crystals with. Sage and Palo Santo smudge sticks are relatively easy to come by (either online or in holistic shops). To cleanse crystals using this method just waft smoke from the burning smudge stick around the crystals for a couple of minutes with the clear intention of cleansing them. WARNING: Do not use this method if you have respiratory problems, are pregnant or think you may be.


Using incense to cleanse crystals

In a similar way to smudging incense can also be used. Either cedarwood or sandalwood incense sticks are great, just light and when producing smoke hold the crystal over it for a couple of minutes. WARNING: Do not use this method if you have respiratory problems, are pregnant or think you may be.

Methods to Charge Crystals

Now that you have cleansed your crystals then you will now need to charge them.

Using Another Crystal

Using another crystal to charge crystalsA large crystal cluster with a naturally high vibration such as clear quartz or selenite can be used to charge crystals.  Crystals can also be charged using geodes.  Just place the crystals either on the large crystal or in the geode for a few hours and they will be charged.


Using moonlight crystal to charge crystals

Moonlight is a funny one, some people swear by it where as others will tell you it does not work.  I would say to use moonlight if you feel drawn to it and leave it if not.  If you wish to charge your crystals with moonlight leave them on a windowsill on a clear night.  I would advise against leaving them outside overnight in case it rains on them.

Methods for Both Cleansing and Charging Crystals


cleansing and charging crystals with sunlight Cleansing and charging crystals with sunlight is by far and away the most simple, easiest and cheapest method. 30-60 minutes on a sunny windowsill will fully cleanse and charge a crystal. This amount of time is more than enough time to complete the process. Make sure the sun’s rays will not be focused onto something flammable and start a fire!!  Some crystals may fade in the sun if left out too long. WARNING: Extreme heat will damage crystals.  In hot countries (or during heat waves) do not put them out during the hottest parts of the day.  Crystals can be put out in the early morning or evening if it is very hot during the day.



Reiki for cleansing and charging crystalsCleansing and charging crystals with Reiki is very simple.  Anyone attuned to at least Reiki level 1 can do this.  Just hold the crystal in your hands with the intention of cleansing and charging it.  Once attuned to level 2 it is then possible to cleanse and charge crystals with Reiki symbols.  Cleansing crystals with Reiki will also charge them so if you are attuned to Reiki this is a great method to use.


If you are attuned to Reiki then using Reiki  is probably the best method for you.  You can cleanse and charge crystals with Reiki whenever you wish.  Sunlight is a great method, it’s free and anyone can use it.  Cleansing and charging crystals can all be done in one go if you have lots making it much more convenient.  I personally find that the less complicated you make something than the better you will be at doing it regularly.

Saying this my own 7yr old daughter decided the other day that she absolutely needed a piece of emerald.  I felt I needed to give it an extra cleanse so smudged it with sage before placing it in the sun for 30 min.  Ultimately you will know what to do, trust yourself and your own intuition.

I hope this guide has helped you understand the basics of cleansing and charging crystals.  Please leave comments to share your own practises and experiences.  I will also do my best to answer any questions you may have.

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